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Welcome to my little corner of the internet where I share what I know (and what I keep learning) about trauma, healing, and therapy. You’ll find posts about EMDR, trauma recovery, and what it really means to move through hard stuff with compassion and curiosity. Whether you’re here in Edmonton, or connecting with me virtually from BC, Manitoba, Saskatchewan, or the North, I hope these posts give you something to think about, something that helps you feel seen, or maybe just a reminder that you’re not alone in this. If you read something here that resonates and want to go a little deeper, you can always reach out. I offer in-person counselling in Edmonton, and virtual therapy across BC (Kelowna), Manitoba (Brandon), Saskatchewan, and the North. And yes, we can start with a free consultation.
Unhealthy Self-Esteem Styles
There are three unhealthy self-esteem styles according to Terry Real (2018).
Performance Based Self-Esteem: People with this style of self-esteem view their worth based on their accomplishments and would likely be viewed as a “workaholic” (Real, 2018).
Attribute Based Self-Esteem: Those with this type of self-esteem believe their value exists in what they have-cars, muscles, trophy wife/husband. Another example are parents who view their worth on their child’s success, believing it is attributed to themselves (Real, 2018).
Other Based Self-Esteem: With this type of self-esteem, an individual believes they have worth when others think they are worthy. This style is based on the approval of others, and extreme examples are love addiction and codependence (Real, 2018).